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Mending Hearts, Rebuilding Trust: Our Integrative Approach to Infidelity Counselling in Singapore
Infidelity isn't one single problem; it is a complex web of broken trust, individual pain and relational dynamics. Our integrative therapy is different and more effective. We carefully blend tools from various psychotherapy techniques to create a personalized plan that addresses the trauma, uncovers the underlying roots of betrayal and hurt, and helps you to make a discerning decision about your future and find a new way forward. Start your journey to recover from infidelity struggles…
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10 Reasons Clients Choose Us for Infidelity Counselling
Whether your goal is to reconcile with new understanding or to separate with respect, we provide effective therapies to heal your trauma, make a discerning decision about your future and find a new way forward.
- Understanding how childhood and past negative experiences contribute to infidelity
- Healing past traumas individually
- Able to rebuild trust after betrayal
- The mind is less preoccupied with the affair
- Shifting from shame to self-worth
- Both partners are clear on what is and is not acceptable moving forward
- Reduction of panic, insomnia and intrusive images
- Rediscover intimacy and closeness
- Empowered to make a conscious choice about the relationship
- Regain genuine safety and trust
“With Carol's guidance, I regained control over my emotions, developed healthier coping mechanisms and found a renewed sense of peace and confidence. She genuinely cares about her clients' well-being and is a skilled professional.”
Our Approach Sets Us Apart
For the hurt partner: Using a blend of proven therapies, we provide a safe space to process the trauma, validate your experience and help you reclaim your strength and sense of self. For the one who strayed: We will help you in practising radical honesty, understanding the choices that led here and developing the empathy needed to become a safe partner again.
Root Cause Healing
We help you and your partner understand the root causes of the affair, not just the symptoms, for a transformation that lasts.
Desensitise Triggers
Using psychotherapy techniques, we will help you to release the emotional weight of past betrayals or painful memories.
Rescript Your Past
Using evidence-based psychotherapy, we will uncover and rescript beliefs of mistrust or insecurity.
Integrative Healing
With our integrative program using EMDR, Schema Therapy and Bibliotherapy, we will help you to work toward forgiveness, recovery and renewed intimacy.
“What I find to be really beneficial about our sessions is that Carol does not just focus on my presenting issues but processes the past in a structured and chronological way. Revisiting all the memories and experiences that made indelible marks on me and addressing the deep-seated narratives and beliefs I hold or held has been such an empowering and cathartic journey. It’s as if a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders and I felt lighter after each session. Processing really helped me to see myself wholly without all the shame and self-deprecation. It was like looking at myself in the mirror with acceptance for maybe the first time in my life.”
Your Infidelity Crisis Recovery Journey
Infidelity shatters you on multiple levels: the trauma (flashbacks, anxiety), the identity crisis ("Who am I? What did I do wrong?") and the broken connection. Our integrative therapy targets each layer specifically.
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Your Infidelity Story
We will delve deep to obtain a contextual understanding of the factors that led to the infidelity crisis.
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Processing and Rescripting
Using psychotherapy, we will help you to find relief from the infidelity trauma and find healing by rescripting negative life patterns and thoughts.
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Empowerment
We will help you to internalise the new learnings into your daily life and develop new patterns of positive thoughts naturally.
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Decision, Forward Looking
We will help you to decide whether to recommit to the relationship or end it with peace and respect. If the choice is to stay, we will help you to create new thinking patterns, rituals and boundaries in your relationship.
When to Seek Professional Help for Infidelity Issues
- You are crushed by guilt, shame or anger.
- You are constantly torturing yourself with images of your spouse and the affair partner together.
- You feel completely worthless due to the betrayal.
- You feel like you cannot trust your own judgment about anything or anyone.
- You have uncontrollable emotional swings.
- You are filled with confusion and self-doubt.
- You are paralysed by the fear of the future.
Ms Carol Goh
Counsellor & Psychotherapist
- Has 20+ years of counselling experience helping more than 2000 clients
- Founding member, EMDR Association of Singapore
- Former founder & director of an award-winning SME in Singapore
- Attained a Master of Social Science (Counselling) from the University of South Australia
- Possesses a wealth of experience to expertly combine various psychotherapy techniques to produce remarkable results for clients
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Frequently Asked Questions About Infidelity Counselling in Singapore
What makes your approach to infidelity counselling different and effective?
Our approach is integrative and tailored, not a one-size-fits-all model. While many therapies only focus on communication, we address the multiple layers of infidelity. We use specific techniques for specific problems: EMDR to process your trauma and flashbacks, Schema Therapy to rewrite the deep-rooted patterns that led here and Bibliotherapy to support your growth between sessions. This ensures we heal the whole wound, not just the surface.
What is integrative psychotherapy, and how does it help with infidelity?
Integrative psychotherapy means we don't believe a single therapeutic approach fits all the complex layers of infidelity. Instead, we blend proven techniques to address the specific challenges you're facing. We tailor our methods to help you process the emotional trauma, understand the underlying patterns that led to the crisis and rebuild communication and trust. This personalised approach is often more effective and comprehensive for healing.
Can we really get past the betrayal and trust again?
Yes, it is possible, but it requires more than just moving on. Rebuilding trust is a process, not a single event. Through our counselling therapy, many couples not only restore trust but develop a deeper, more conscious connection.
I'm overwhelmed by painful images and anxiety due to the betrayal. Can you help with that?
Absolutely. This is a common trauma response, and it's exactly what techniques like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) are designed for. EMDR helps your brain reprocess these disturbing memories, allowing them to become less vivid and emotionally charged. You can gain freedom from the intrusive thoughts and constant anxiety, finding a sense of calm and stability again.
What if we're unsure about staying together? Is counselling still for us?
Yes, absolutely. The goal of our counselling is not to force you to stay together at all costs. The goal is to help you both gain clarity and make a conscious, informed decision about your future. We provide a safe space to explore your feelings. Whether you decide to rebuild the relationship or part ways, you will do so with greater understanding, less animosity and the ability to heal individually.
How do you help the partner who had the affair?
The partner who had the affair often carries shame, guilt and confusion. It's vital they also have a space to understand their actions without mere condemnation. We use psychotherapy to help them explore the underlying patterns, beliefs and unmet needs that contributed to their choice. This is not about making excuses, but about fostering self-awareness and personal responsibility, which is the foundation for genuine change and becoming a safe partner.
Is this counselling only for couples, or can I come alone?
We work with both individuals and couples. In fact, many people begin this journey individually to process their own trauma or confusion before starting couples work. Individual sessions allow you to focus entirely on your personal healing in a private space. We can tailor our integrative approach to support you, whether you are attending alone or with your partner.
How do we know if our relationship is worth saving?
This is one of the most painful questions after an affair. Our role is not to answer it for you, but to give you empowerment and perspective to find your own answer. Through our therapy, you will move from a place of reactive pain to a place of informed choice. You will gain a clear picture of what went wrong, whether both partners are willing and able to do the work and what a future together or apart could realistically look like.
What can we expect in the first few sessions?
The first session is to uncover the history of your relationship, the impact of infidelity and the contributing factors leading to infidelity. Our goal is to hear from both of you, answer your questions about our process and collaboratively outline a preliminary plan for your healing journey. It's a confidential, non-judgmental space to begin untangling the complexity you're facing. There will not be any applications of psychotherapy during the initial sessions.
